How’s Your Balancing Act?
“It seemed like a good idea at the time.” Sound familiar? Several years ago, in a hurry to get in shape quickly, I began a weight-training program that was too advanced for me. Within six weeks I was definitely “in shape”…. very bad shape!
My frozen shoulder was the least of my worries. I was “off balance” and stumbling around. As a keynote speaker I spend a lot of time in airports, hotels, corporate workplaces and convention centers. I take the challenges of travel in stride. Now afraid of falling, my stride – and my attitude – had changed from determined and confident to anxious and insecure.
A neurologist diagnosed the problem and proclaimed it “fixable” with physical therapy. (We would deal with the frozen shoulder later.) After three months of intensive PT my balance greatly improved. And so did my outlook on life. I was feeling balanced once again in body, mind and spirit. What about you? Are you feeling in – or out – of balance?
Maybe your workplace is very stressful right now. Customers are more demanding and you are working harder than ever. Or there’s an issue in your personal life. Sometimes a situation is temporary but serious. When a sudden crisis throws your life into a tailspin, reclaiming your balance may feel impossible. When you find yourself in such a situation, you must be willing and determined to ask for the help and support you need.
If you’re known as everyone else’s caretaker, people at work and at home can become overly dependent on you. So it will take concentrated effort to reclaim your balance. Taking care of everyone else leaves very little time to take care of YOU. If you’re at this point now, what conversations need to take place? Who needs to be involved in those conversations? Nobody is a mind reader, so you have to speak up and tell people what you need or want.
We can get so busy concentrating our attention in one area that we fail to see the problems right in front of us. Focused on getting in shape in a hurry, I wasn’t paying attention. By the time it was serious, the damage had already been done. What’s happening in your workplace or your relationships? Are some small problems becoming big problems? Sometimes it’s much easier to look the other way. But you can’t begin to address a problem you won’t admit exists.
And guess what! When I reset my priorities and concentrated my energy on the people and projects that really mattered, my world did not fall apart. Neither will yours. So stop trying to DO it all and BE it all. Put yourself “FIRST on the list” for a change. No matter what’s going on outside of you, creating balance comes from the attitudes, beliefs and behaviors inside of you.
What throws you OFF balance? What helps keep you ON track? I’d love to hear from you, so share with me here on the blog or visit my new Facebook page at http://www.facebook.com/JeanGatzSpeaks!